Self Mastery - How to Navigate Intense Emotions - No Mud - No Lotus

Updated: Sep 29

Here we are, these spiritual beings having a human experience. We are feeling so many emotions simultaneously. They come in waves, fluctuating from worry about finances, our relationships, the COVID 19 virus. We worry about getting sick, our loved ones getting sick, We get angry about how our government is managing this situation. It is stressful feeding our family and being cooped up with lots of people in a small space. While others are feeling isolated and alone. The realization of just how unsustainable everything seams, how we live our lives, educate our children, grow our food, tend to the sick, birth our babies, govern our countries is daunting.

The uncertainty of it all is unsettling for people. We want to know what to expect. Some people prefer the doomsday scenario because, at least, now they know what to expect. Rather than being open to the neutrality of an unknown future.

Personally, I find some comfort and a little excitement in the uncertainty. It makes me feel alive, it activates my instincts, my courage, my commitment to showing up and being a presence, to hold space for humanity, and to be of service.

Remember that we are living in the here and now. We only have this present moment. We are born for this. We have been preparing for these challenges our whole life. We are spiritually connected people who have cultivated a healthy life, with self-care and mindfulness practices. We know what to do. We have all the information, the support, and resources available to us, even if it doesn't seam like it in the moment.

So, if we're so spiritually centered, comfortable with uncertainty, we know that change is the only constant, that nature is neutral and that we are not exempt, especially not from pandemics. Why are we so triggered? Why are we reacting in ways that surprise us, and that activates old unhealthy patterns of behavior? An even better question is, how do we navigate these experiences and stay in alignment with our truth?

All of us here have found peace and harmony and moment later have been enraged, angry, lashed out at someone, or felt the contraction of fear take grip in our bodies. In a blink of an eye, we are pushed off our center. We didn't even see it coming, and there we are a hot mess of fear, guilt, judgment, and grief.

So, how do we navigate these emotions and stay in alignment?

Do you know the difference between at taiji master and a novice? They both get pushed off their center. The difference is the master knows how to return to her center faster. She has practiced more repetitions of returning.

To find and maintain our center, we need to cultivate daily practices that establish deep roots. With regular practice, we learn how to adjust as we go, we refine, we practice, we breathe, we listen, we follow, we adhere, we accept, we cry, we rest, we get up and do the work, again and again. We keep showing up and turning toward the situation. It's not perfect. It's messy.

Establishing stability is a process, and not a one size fits all experience. As an herbalist, it's my responsibility to highlight our body's need for foundational nourishment. We need to be fed to feel fulfilled. Nourishment looks like drinking nourishing and adaptogenic herbs, drinking pure water, getting enough sleep, moving our bodies, having a secure, reliable immune system, and allowing herbs to support us when we feel stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed. I've made lots of videos about those topics that you can find in the associated playlists on our youtube channel.

Last week we made tinctures, and I talked about the alchemy of self. Alchemy transforms one state of being or matter into another state of being or matter. We can transform a poisonous toxic plant into medicine, just like we can transform damaging toxic thoughts and emotions into wisdom and grace.

Last week on the Youtube channel we made medicine, this week we embody wisdom and grace as our medicine.

We become the medicine!

From a Buddhist perspective, all suffering is caused by our attachment to the six emotions of happiness, anger, sorrow, joy, love, hate, and desire. These emotions are thought to create pain and cause physical, mental, and spiritual suffering. Not all of us are striving for enlightenment and clearly have not detached from these emotions nor want to. In order to achieve that goal, the monks retreat to the mountains and live in seclusion. We live in modern society with our feelings and with our stressors. We live with other people and their emotional stressors. We are not looking for an idealized goal of sainthood, but for a healthy and peaceful life.

We may not live as monks, yet clearly, there is truth and wisdom in the understanding of how damaging unchecked emotions are. When our anger is out of control, it hurt us and those around us. Our emotions dominate our behavior; they affect our ability to think clearly, act reasonably, and show discernment. When we are reacting from a place of extreme emotions, we are responding to false truths.

How do we control our emotions, our anger, and fear? From a Qigong perspective, the goal is to cultivate a practice that provides a framework or a method, to relax the body, deepen the breath, focus and calm the mind, and raise the spirit. These practices help us shift our awareness and perspective to resolve the situation. In Qigong philosophy, we have two minds an emotional mind and a wisdom mind. The emotional mind is described as a monkey. It bounces around from thing to thing, it's unruly, it's disruptive, it causes chaos and destruction. The wisdom mind is compared to a horse. It has a strong will, it's reasonable, and it can carry out a focused task. When these two minds work together, our inner humanity and authenticity are manifested.

Through meditation practice, you learn how to direct your mind to follow your breath, relax your body, and raise your spirit. Eventually, you learn how to control or train the monkey to not trash your place but to sit quietly and peacefully at your side. The books describe this process as needing to put a leash on the monkey and putting him in a cage to contain and control him.